Thats a fair observation. And I do recognize nostr as more than just a network for social media.
However, I am not eager to participate, or subject myself to, typical social media environments.
If there are means that one can have a social experience within nostr that's isolated from those typical norms, cool.
If not, then nostr's value for me will only lay in the ability to use it outside of social media (ex: ngit).