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Here's what we provide via our Nextcloud TROM Files as ...

2026-10-31T10:01:13Z

Here's what we provide via our Nextcloud TROM Files as trade-free (purest form of free, no ads, no trackers, no AI no BS):

- 10GB of storage space and we can extend it up to 20GB for whoever needs more
- A fully featured document editing, perhaps even better than Google Docs
- A Photo managing app, with tags, auto sorting, photo editor, etc.
- Calendar and Contacts app
- Deck - Kaban-style To-Do app
- A Password manager, KeePassNC
- A Notes app
- A Music app and a Maps app

They are all interconnected and functional. All of your profile is encrypted. There is no catch other than providing these tools for free to people, since we too at TROM use them.

So, enjoy and share!

And if you can support us do so here and see what else we provide - tromsite.com/donate/

Because we provide a lot more than this!

#free #foss #opensource #open-source #fedi #instances #nextcloud #trom #tromsite #filehosting #hosting #

A new breed of tech billionaires are building their own ...

2026-10-30T21:45:29Z

A new breed of tech billionaires are building their own countries, replacing democracy as we know it and targeting the global financial system. Matt Shea goes inside their world.
The Tech Billionaire Takeover

So is a very weird mix in Catalonia, Spain, Romania or everywhere ...

2026-10-28T10:32:24Z

So is a very weird mix in Catalonia, Spain, Romania or everywhere else. People migrate due to economic reasons mainly, they work for less, do not speak the local language in many cases, do not care about the local culture, they just want to make a buck. Others come in for holidaying, to consume the tribe. Some locals take advantage of them, abuse the migrants at times, make money off of tourists, then complain about them, and so forth.

They start to blame each other and in the process the visual and cultural differences are easy targets: those Mexicans stealing our jobs, those dirty Gypsies, those stupid brown people, the Romanian thieves, the arrogant British tourists!

What is clear is that if people were to have a decent life, the Catalans, the Gypsies, the Mexicans, the Romanians and the rest, then there will be a lot less people migrating and “stealing” the locals’ jobs or committing crimes, and thus less of this forced mixing of cultures. Less consumerism, and thus less tourism, less short term rentals. And if people were not to be workers for most of the year, then them holidaying could be more spread-out through the year, not creating the insane tsunami of tourists in July-August in all of Spain, and probably all over the world.

In essence, it is not the fault of the Catalans, or the immigrants, or my fault, or anyone’s fault. It is this society that transforms us into consuming working idiots who then mix and clash with each other.

Snippet from Culture Cancer - tromsite.com/2026/07/culture-c…

#immigration #spain #catalonia #culture #trom #tromsite #tromarticles

But is not only poor people coming to “your tribe”, taking ...

2026-10-25T11:20:53Z

But is not only poor people coming to “your tribe”, taking “your jobs” by working for less and in poorer conditions. The tourists are the other kinds who come to “your tribe”, not giving much of a shit about your culture and language, or even the environment. They come to “visit”, eat, have fun, take advantage of a tribe. Consumers, consuming, as we all are in this society. But also to take a break from their eternally-enslaved worker lives.

For example in Barcelona the locals feel a deep anger towards the tourists:

videos.trom.tf/w/usbuKr8CVjgv8…

Is normal to be angry when you cannot even rent a place to live in since the rents are insanely expensive, all due to short term rentals for tourists. I know it very well. I lived for 15 years in a small coastal town 2h North of Barcelona. It is IMPOSSIBLE to rent long term here. It is all for tourists. I am not a Catalan, but I can see how such situations make us think of “us vs them” again, and play very well into the separation of people into groups, which will lead some towards nationalism, and politicians will take advantage of that.

Catalonia, like all of Spain, relies so much on tourism to make money. So weirdly enough, the industry is feeding a lot of Catalans in the process. They can hate on the tourists, but they also rely on them a lot. Same way that the Catalans take advantage of people like my father who are vulnerable, so they will pay them less and work them more. Just to make a profit.

Snippet from Culture Cancer - tromsite.com/2026/07/culture-c…

#catalonia #catalunia #culture #trom #tromsite #tromarticles #barcelona #tourism #inequality #rents #spain

Our Times Make “Idiocracy” Look Like Utopia - ...

2026-10-19T22:19:36Z

Our Times Make “Idiocracy” Look Like Utopia - currentaffairs.org/news/our-ti…

#TradeRuinsEverything #capitalism #money #trump #politics #idiocracy

We will not replace the drive for the next 2 or so weeks. The ...

2026-10-19T15:31:17Z

We will not replace the drive for the next 2 or so weeks. The hosting company ran a more detailed test and they said the drive is ok for now. I am trapped in a very busy and difficult period of time so doing it now would have been very difficult for me.

Therefore we will postpone this. And I am happy with that.

When we will do it we will let you all know.

Cheers,
Tio

We need to urgently replace our server drive that is failing. ...

2026-10-19T13:53:04Z

We need to urgently replace our server drive that is failing. Starting today our TROM.tf may not work for hours or even days.... keep an eye here status.tromsite.com

Maybe is better to replace it now than wait for it to fail. If you use TROM Social, Videos, Nextcloud and the like in the next hours/days your data may be lost, so you know.

There are better ways to migrate but I, Tio, am currently too busy with too many personal problems and is the best I can do.

Please share.

#trom #tromtf #trade-free #tromsite #fedi #fedverse #friendica #peertube #nextcloud

We raised ALL of the money to pay for our servers for an ENTIRE ...

2026-10-18T16:18:29Z

We raised ALL of the money to pay for our servers for an ENTIRE year!

donorbox.org/pay-for-our-trom-…

Thank you so much to everyone who donated! You are amazing people! Much much appreciated!

We will leave the campaign on just in case we get any extra help. Every money will go one way or another into our projects.

We are trying to replace our TROM.tf drive from our dedicated server because it is failing. Thinkering how to do it in a way that it wont affect our services for loner than several hours.

We will let you know.

Wow we are basically there with the campaign: Thank you so so ...

2026-10-18T08:23:32Z

Wow we are basically there with the campaign:

Thank you so so much to everyone! Fantastic people!

40 more Euros to go basically :) donorbox.org/pay-for-our-trom-…

But yah consider it as a total success!

#campaign #fediverse #fedi #fundraiser

Thank you amazing people for helping with the donation campaign!! ...

2026-10-16T15:14:59Z

Thank you amazing people for helping with the donation campaign!! We are so close to the finishing line :)

Life feels like shit recently, but man it also feels amazing to see that there are people who appreciate TROM and its baby projects. Thank you. It gives me a lot of fuel to continue!

#fundraiser #fedi #fediverse #trom #tromsite

A film that blends remarkable access to the Large Hadron Collider ...

2026-10-15T14:25:05Z

A film that blends remarkable access to the Large Hadron Collider with poetry, music and rare archival footage to explore a place where science, politics and culture collide.
The Hadron Collider: In Search of the Peace Particle

We have raised half of our campaign money since yesterday: Thank ...

2026-10-15T06:59:05Z

We have raised half of our campaign money since yesterday:

Thank you so much! Maybe there is a chance to raise the full amount!

#campaign #fundraiser #trom #tromsite #fedi #fediverse

We raised 223€ out of 1.100€: Campaign here - ...

2026-10-14T15:42:51Z

We raised 223€ out of 1.100€:

Campaign here - donorbox.org/pay-for-our-trom-…

Out of 900 Newsletter subscribers and a few hundreds of followers on the fediverse, only 6 people have donated. We will try to reach those who use our TROM.tf services. If only a handful, literally, of people support us financially then perhaps is not sustainable to run services such as Friendica, Nextcloud, Peertube and more for everyone. We can't pay for them ourselves. Myself...Tio.

Even small donations, a cup of coffee, could make an impact a little bit. We will see by the end of this month how things go. If we really cannot get enough support to pay 1.000€ for our servers for a year, then we need to make our instances only for us at TROM and move to a cheaper server solution.

It is sad. But is no option on the table. Without financial support I cannot pay some 100€ a month for the servers.

Massive thank you to the 6 people who donated! It helps a lot.

#fediverse #fedi #trom #tromsite

The film explores artificial intelligence through the history of ...

2026-10-13T18:06:58Z

The film explores artificial intelligence through the history of human advancement in technology.
Ghost in the Machine

Please help us Pay for our TROM servers for a year ...

2026-10-12T13:22:01Z

Please help us Pay for our TROM servers for a year donorbox.org/pay-for-our-trom-…

Here is the newsletter we sent: newsletter.tromsite.com/archiv…

It is very difficult recently to manage it all inside this Trade Society. Every little financial help, helps!

Mind you there are thousands of people who use our TROM.tf services, and also take value from our many projects and TROM content. So if possible to help us a bit financially.

Thanks a lot!

#trom #tromsite #fedi #fediverse

My Garden of a Thousand Bees - videoneat.com/documentaries/26… ...

2026-10-12T08:38:14Z

My Garden of a Thousand Bees - videoneat.com/documentaries/26…

Here's some positivity for today. A wonderful documentary!

#nature #documentary #bbc #videoneat

Hey people, I need help to pay for our TROM servers for a year. I ...

2026-10-11T17:18:31Z

Hey people,

I need help to pay for our TROM servers for a year. I am really low on money recently and this time I am unsure how to bring it to the surface and make it float... I opened a campaign here donorbox.org/pay-for-our-trom-…

Please help me if you can. There are thousands of people using our services and taking value out of these TROM Projects. Would be a shame to let it dry out.

Thank you so much to everyone who can help or at least spread the word if possible!

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That's all. If you want to read more, here is my rant:

Recently the Universe has been all against me. Health problems for me and my family, Sasha split ways with me, financial issues...etc.. Is been so awful you can't imagine. I am currently in Romania because my father had the 5th stroke in less than a year and I am helping my parents move back to Spain basically. All while I am having tornadoes and tsunamis of stress and dark thoughts inside of my brain.

But, I will survive this assault too.

I was about to push myself to create a lot more for TROM. Was working on video scripts for a long-awaited (by me) video series; I was making videos for my Ride With Less channel; I was starting the work on a big and important TROM Article about AI....Was doing a lot! And I had to drop it all to come to Romania and solve this issue with my parents.

There is a lot to do and talk about, and somehow I am still here keeping TROM and myself alive. The Trade, this practice, is the orchestrator of most of our problems. What happens with AI for instance, the way is hyped and used, is meticulously directed by the same force of trade. The fact that humans may have less jobs because of "it", is also a problem that should not exist if trade was not a necessity to survive on this planet. AI, climate change, waste, stupid people, and so on, are a result of the same core issue that I try so hard to easily explain through TROM. So TROM is such an important project I argue. So important and in my view so unique, that is terribly incompatible with this fucked up society. And so, is such a war to try to keep this project, these ideas, alive and make them known.

People work, are tired, is Monday, is Tuesday, is Friday. Is another week. Come home, eat, do chores, watch some fantasy stories via these thingies we call movies or tv shows, scroll on phones, drink a beer, and move on. News about wars, endless TikTok seconds-long-AI-slop, the world is an asteroid traveling at immense speeds towards a black hole. Is so hard for projects like TROM to change the course of this. But like a fly on that asteroid I will hold on and buzz about it. Flap those wings until I can't. If I can't change the world I will for sure change myself, as a person. And hopefully a bunch of other people. We have plans...more than just the online ones. But for now they are wild (tho achievable) ideas I'd rather not talk about yet. However there is a lot of thinkering behind the scenes in regards to how to change the direction of this asteroid. At least in theory....

So yah, I HOPE I can get back to Spain and as soon as possible continue with my plan for TROM and myself. Without it, there is no "me".

I hope I can get help with this campaign so at least I have a bit of financial security for the upcoming months.

I swallowed so much stress this past months I wonder how I did not end up abusing drugs and giving up on life completely. But maybe what does not kill you...makes you stronger!? I hope so.

Life is a train that is not taking breaks. One day it will stop for us. But while is still going, I will try to make my train worth the ride despite so many roadblocks in my way.

Big thank you to everyone who supported this project one way or another. I am not dragging a dead horse, TROM is a strong and beautiful horse in my view, but is trapped in a forest of bullshit that is this society. We need to get that horse out, keep it fed and healthy meanwhile, and hope that others will notice it.

Take care people!

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What do I do with myself?

2 weeks ago Sasha came back from her Iceland solo hiking and told me she hooked up with a guy there, and is not about him or anyone, but she wants us to break up because she found happiness in her solo adventures. There were no warning sings this would happen, at least not now or this way. For the past months we had quite a good relationship, even when she was in Iceland as I will explain.

I felt like falling into a sinkhole mentally. I felt like suffocating. First days were awful for me. I cried, something I don’t remember doing for decades now, I had some panic attacks, I felt like I have no direction. Is like being trapped in a cave that became so narrow and dark, and your way back is blocked by big chunks of rocks that just fell behind you. You feel like you are fucked. That’s it!

Since then I had days when I felt ok. And I thought is a progression towards getting over it. But a few days ago I again felt trapped in this dark and narrow cave with no way out.

How come we ended up here with this relationship and how come I am in such a terrible mental state?I am different, abnormal, unadaptable to this society.

Since highschool I started to see the world differently, very much so, from the rest. I started to realize how humans live in an imaginary world of religion, money, jobs, statuses, borders, etc.. And I took this seriously.

I started to write on my blog about it and eventually made the TROM Documentary. 14h long. About why this society sucks and what we could do about to fix it.

This is me working on the TROM Documentary in 2011:

These years I felt very motivated because there were projects like TVP or TZM, followed by hundreds of thousands of people. And these projects were pretty much on the same path as my “weird” worldview. I was living with my parents and my sister. No friends. No girlfriend – actually I do not think I had any girlfriend in that sense, ever. I had that “oh I’d love to also have such a relationship” feeling in the back of my mind. But I was so focused on my online activism.I found my tribe and then I was dumped by it.

I teamed up with TVP and I felt so happy because I was not alone. Thousands of people were working in the same direction. I was getting enough financial support for the first time in my life, to allow me to move in my own rented apartment.

I put my soul into these projects.

I was INSANE! I was watching so many documentaries, reading, writing, producing….you have no clue. I worked from the moment I woke up till I went late at night to bed. People who knew me online were shocked I am one guy doing all of these.

2015ish in my first rented apartment with my parents and my sister:

I worked so much producing the TVP Magazine, the official Venus Project Magazine, that at times I had to fill up the bathtub with warm water and put myself underneath it with a snorkeling tube. On my back looking at the ceiling from under the water. It was just too much work and that made me feel relaxed.

Anyway, reached many people, lots of engagement, comments, feedback, financial support.

Then it all DIED.

My relationship with TVP went very cold and I can only blame them and Roxanne. We broke up and I detailed that in my blog post here. Basically Roxanne surprised me one day and told me she wants us to split ways because the Magazine is basically mine and I do my own thing there not listening to her. Please read the post as this is pure insanity. I was the most collaborative person and had a lot of patience and listened. This is why it was such a shock to me when Roxanne said what she said, since I had a good relationship with her and the TVP teams….

But there is a pattern that you will see repeat in my life: Roxanne and TVP did indeed do some weird things like not putting the magazine on their main website, not talking about it, and so on. Ignoring me and the magazine, while at the same time in private telling me how great the project is and that I do a fantastic job….

I guess people are very bad at communicating their true thoughts and they let things be dragged on in confusion and suffering. The breakup was hard for me, since I was always open to fix the things that do not work, if there were any. After all TVP was bragging about how communication is key to solve our differences, and yet they behaved like any other emotional human entity from this society. TRUE DISAPPOINTMENT!

I felt so lost..

After so many years of putting so much effort into building something together with TVP, so many written pages, I redesigned their entire website, so much effort…and is all being thrown into the garbage bin from their perspective. Just like that.

This was also a time when most such activism projects were about to die quickly. The trade society is too insane and infertile for good and radical projects emerge and then grow.

I remember I felt like suffocating not knowing where to go next since my whole identity was this online Tio who is a name attached to so many projects and content for TVP. I had many online contacts, but my offline life was the same. Moved back with my parents since I could not afford to support myself financially.

All of this time my sister was my closest ally. She is the only one who knows these things. She got excited and depressed with me :D. Helped me a lot to talk to her about this situation. I rebooted myself.

So it was I and my sister basically, going for walks in a small town in the north of spain, bitching about the world and thinking about new ideas, projects….what to do. But wtill no friends, still nothing changed in my offline life.

Somehow I managed to reboot myself. Took all of the TVP Magazine articles and transformed them into TROM Books. It was all about TROM now. I went through a bit of hell mentally to detach from TVP, but after a year or two I felt great to have my own shit on my own website, no one to stop me from being me.

I wrote more for TROM and did a bunch of new projects for it with a bunch of new people.

Eventually we made our first TROM Meeting and till now this is the most fantastic moment of my life, when people I worked with came to visit me in my little town.

I felt like something important may happen now.Meet Sasha.

There was a girl who was interested in my work and contacted me. She had an interesting website. I was curious to browse through her content. She was traveling around the world with just her backpack for so many years. That was impressive. But what was surprising and impressive for me was that she was aware of me and TROM. And she was impressed by my work, my books, me?! She was also heavily involved with TVP back then as a point of contact for their biggest team, the Russian team. I was impressed by her values and drive.

Sasha organized some english learning classes/meetups in Russia where she would use TROM as a way to both teach english to some people and present the project. I also love this presentation of her life and TROM from 8 years ago. I saw this video back then and I was so curious about this girl. Wow, someone who understood these things and is so involved and wants to tell others about it all?! Fuck! That’s amazing. Honestly I want to meet that Sasha now!

She would do some livestreams called TROM Discussions where they would take bits of the TROM Documentary and discuss. I remember one time I was at the beach watching live and I felt so happy to see that.

She and I got in contact somehow and kept in touch over email.

I was working so hard on a core book that would redefine the TROM Project. The Origin of Most Problems. And I remember I did not have enough money to stay alone in the winter in Spain, because every year my family would go back to Romania for the 2-3 months holiday time and I usually would be dragged along, having no money to pay for the electricity, food, etc. in Spain. So this amazing Sasha sends me some 1.000 dollars to be able to stay and finish the book. I was mind blown. Even now I get goosebumps. My god this girl is something. I thanked her so much, especially since she didn’t have much money at all.

Thank you Sasha! Truly!

Since this Sasha was also part of TROM now, I of course invited her for the meetup.

She came. She fell in love with me and she was very…how to say….inserting herself quickly into my life. I was going through some health issues back then and overwhelmed by meeting so many like minded people. So I do not remember how we ended up together. Maybe she drugged me idk :)).

Truth is I was not attracted to Sasha physically. I was attracted to her as a person. To her mind. But I knew that physical attraction is something that changes and is learned from the environment. Truth is I saw these things different by that time. Not like “wow a hot chick”, but I looked at the person first. I have such a strong allergy to normal people that I cannot have a relationship even with the most beautiful human female on the planet because I detest so much the normal values of people.

I am so “abnormal” that even if a cashier/seller tries to get friendly with me in this town I lived for so long, because they see me often going to this shop, I then avoid going there. Idk man…I just don’t like people. I feel like almost all are crazy motheruckers living in their own fantasy land and I feel uncomfortable around them.

This is why this TROM Meeting was such a fantastic thing for me!

And now that Sasha inserted herself into my life I thought this is beyond fantastic and I have to make sure this relationship works. I started to care a lot about her and see her as cute, sexy, beautiful too. It worked! Of course. But I had to use my brain and not my hormones as a starter, in order to have a fully satisfying relationship, both mentally and hormonally/emotionally.

Sasha, I and my best friend Aaron decided to rent an apartment together. It was easier for us financially and we wanted to try a new life.

Sasha also wanted to finish a book about her life so she needed to stay in one place for a bit longer. I was wondering….this Sasha is so amazing and involved with these projects, but her lifestyle….is so wild compared to mine. I thought she won’t stay here for long…

But I wanted to try something new and this was an opportunity I thought I will never have.A disjointed but great 7 years relationship.

We went through a lot. A few weeks after we moved together Sasha had to go to UK for 3 months because her Visa would expire. In the following years it was a mix of trying to deal with the papers for Sasha to be able to stay in Europe (we even got married), to her struggles to finish her book. I remember she went through a lot of awful moments mentally not finding the motivation to finish the book. I was always there to help her motivationally and with anything she needed help with. I even rebuilt/redesigned her entire website.

I cared so much about her and this relationship that I was ready to do all I can do make it work, despite being reminded at times by Sasha that she may not like this lifestyle when she complained and said she feels like in a prison in this little town. I felt maybe this was a result of her struggles with the book too, not just a dissatisfaction with “this” lifestyle, although I understood her previous lifestyle was widely different.

So whenever she said that I seriously told her that if she really wants that lifestyle back I will be very depressed about ending up our relationship BUT I will help her move on….and we have to help each other move on. Be smart, let’s do it sanely.

However things moved on, she worked on the book, a bunch of friends visited us, we had a kayak, learned to cook paella, we had a very good relationship overall I would say. Actually people looked at us and thought we are the perfect couple.

A bunch of “TROM friends” moved in the same town but nothing really fructified…idk why really. I was always busy and engaged but is not easy to build stuff together. I was very open to making videos, some events, etc.., but idk what did not work.

People are different, have different lives, want different things…idk. These friends left.2020 I felt the most hopeful.

2020 was the pandemic. For most peopke it was an awful time, for me it was a great time. Of course not the deaths and all of that, but the fact that things were calmer and I started to also work on TROM II. Sasha helped a lot with the recordings and when I had to record her she was fantastic. A true powerhouse! She also helped with making the captions after the release. At the same time she was still working on her book.

Took me 3 years to finish the documentary. We were talking about who can release first, she her book or me the documentary. But for me this was a magic time when we both were very active and engaged with our projects and each other. Moving with my parents.

In 2021 I and Sasha decided to move with my parents because we had little money and we wanted to also save to buy a motorhome. It was an idea we both talked about because a motorhome = cheap house + adventures + stability.

Sasha wanted to go hike for 2 months in the Pyrenees to think about her book and finally finish it.

I went with her for the first 3 days as we planned :). Truth is for me is not easy to do these hikes even for a few days. This is Sasha’s world…but I wanted to try it…

I felt sad when we split after those 3 days because by this time I was getting very attached to Sasha. Before her I was emotionally sealed. But she unsealed me. I learned how great is to hug, cuddle, kiss, have someone so close to you. So I felt a deep sadness when we split ways and she went by herself through the mountains. First time I truly felt that for someone.

I supported her fully and was excited for her. We kept in touch, she would send me photos, info, etc..

I was so happy to meet with her again when she came back.

In this meantime I was working on the documentary.Sasha had to work.

In 2022 Sasha found a summer job in diving in this town we lived in. We needed money. Unfortunately.

But she also found new friends. Very good people! And she even pushed me to get my diving license. Experiencing that was mindbllowing for me and I crave for diving again with her….I really do!

Thank you Sasha!

Fuck I miss that 😀

But this half a year work also changed Sasha and us.

In these years Sasha had to work for 6 or more months a year in diving. I felt so bad that she has to do this…those months she was so tired. She was not her anymore. We had no relationship when she worked. We barely saw each other.

I tried to help with whatever I could. I always tried to make sure she has food to eat, cold water to drink, I was there when she came for the break, even opening the gates for her :D. I felt so guilty that she has to work. I talked to her several times about what we can do to support ourselves financially without having to go through this, or come back to a certain place. My ideas like she could help me find more websites to make, were not something she would like. Truth is she also enjoyed diving. Also the people she worked with. So it was not just work, but also the experience of diving and friends.

But we were pushed and pulled between Sasha’s job, paperwork about her residency, lack of money, and staying with my parents. At times friends visited us, even Sasha’s mom with who I got along so well. Such a nice human. I liked that Sasha’s parents were not, you know, the kind that you have to “put up with” and go meet and feel uncomfortable. Were the opposite. I never met her father directly but we said Hi through Sasha and a few times via a video call. Good people!

These years there were some tensions between us but nothing unusual for any relationship. Sasha still craved from time to time about her previous backpacking lifestyle…but I was always telling her if she really wants that we should talk and deal with it like sane humans.I released TROM II in 2023 and…

That same period of time I finally released TROM II. I was so happy with the end result. It is the most difficult project I ever made. But….it got no traction…yes I got some amazing feedback from my closest friends, but other than that almost no one watched it. I put so much effort into it – perhaps I burned myself out…and now no impact, I felt like trapped in a blackhole of depression.

We had another TROM Meeting in 2023:

It was really cool. Got me a bit out of my depressive mood. I so love these moments! This is my tribe! And I am sure Sasha also feels the same. We all cared about each other and were decent humans with each other.

But Sasha had to go work again after the meetup was over.

I went to Prague to give a talk at the last TZM Meeting event.

I felt amazing there. For the first time I was “out there” with my ideas. I worked for weeks on that presentation and I think it went really well.

But then I come back….Sasha is working, we have little money, but we were doing our best to save for the motorhome.

I was doing my driving license classes. We were busy as always.

But here’s the thing…for me at least this was part of a relationship and we were still together, a team, I and Sasha, and we were trying to do something together. Despite the struggles, shitty lifestyle, at least I felt like there is a path forward….let’s get the motorhome, let’s not have to come back here and you to work, let’s release your book, let’s…together.

But I started to feel like Sasha lost her affection towards me…I felt like we distanced. At times I too lost that towards her, but I always fixed it internally.Sasha’s book.

Sasha managed to release her book in 2024. Took a LOT longer than she or anyone else expected. 5 years! I am telling you, and Sasha knows this too well, this book challenged our relationship a lot. Sasha went through a lot of ups and downs, and so many times I was there to help her. At some point because she dragged on things I found irrelevant (going through thousands of fonts for months to pick one) I felt like I was ready to let go of this relationship because I felt too stressed. It is so hard to explain but trust me it was BAD.

I helped her to design the cover and that too was a lot of stress.

I didn’t like that she would let silly things like font types or some small design changes make our relationship stressful. I told her semi-jokingly if she does not release the book by a certain date I will break up with her. Because honestly it was hard. BUT I always opened these discussions with Sasha to try and find a solution. I am always like that: talk talk talk.

This was a period of time when idk if I had any attraction to Sasha anymore, I struggled myself too with my own problems, I wanted something else. BUT I used my brain again and realized that these situations will pass and I have to be the strong one now and support her.

And so I did!

I would have never abandoned Sasha when she was at her most vulnerable moment!

FINALLY in 2024 Sasha released her book!

We threw a surprise party for her. We all loved Sasha. My mother felt like Sasha was her daughter. My sister had a huge respect and appreciation for her and would “brag” about her to her friends.

But after the book release Sasha felt burned out…she also worked again in diving. No time to focus on promoting the book.

The book was fantastic!

She did an amazing job. She also talked about TROM and me in the book and that felt like an honor to me. And she even ended the book with me.

All of her 15 years of adventures, and I was her last one in her book. I felt a bit worried because I did not know if she really meant that. I hoped she did. I was also very moved by it. I shed some tears at the end of reading that book.

She gave me a copy with a wonderful hand written text at the end of it. She thanked me for the help with the book, the inspiration in her life, and said the book is her way to fight with me. Against this system. It is us, a team now. Something like that. I really hoped she meant that, but by that time I felt like perhaps she was not fully feeling that way.

But again not much happened after. We both felt burned out I guess. Tired.

We sorted Sasha’s residency. We released our projects. We were saving money for the motorhome. We did another TROM Meetup:

Sasha had to work this period of time so she could not spend too much time with us…it sucked. But still amazing to meet all of these people!

I am telling you, Sasha working for so long had a huge impact on our relationship. I think we could have found a better way to make money if we both cared about saving and improving the relationship. In all relationships such struggles exist. On top of this going here, there, papers, money, then Sasha’s 5 year work on the book and my 3 year work on the documentary pushed us more and more apart simply because we did not have time for “us”.

Season this with Sasha’s nostalgia about her backpacking life and the death of my hope with the projects I was doing, and it is a disaster.Motorhome!

This is november 2024. I kept myself busy with searching for a motorhome that year. It was my hope that we can finally put all of our problems, or most of them, behind and try this new lifestyle.

We managed to save money, my parents and some friends helped us financially too, and we bought it.

What followed was almost 2 years of not even trying I feel.

I was trying to keep myself excited about the motorhome. Sasha was not as excited. I wanted to work on it for a few weeks at least – is normal, is an old motorhome. Sasha almost always hated when I said we have to do that…but to me it was about working for us, for our little home, for our relationship in the end.

But she did help a lot with it eventually. And she always came with me to check motorhomes and stuff.

For me living in the motorhome was a big challenge. I am used to infinite power, infinite internet, to work on TROM and the like. I am easily bothered by sounds and I love stability in terms of comfort. And now, limited power, limited internet, and not knowing where you park, where you sleep..if it is noisy or what not…for me it was a wild life.

Consider that I always had issues with my digestive system so it is hard for me to figure what to eat, when….

I was not in my best mood at times but we managed to stay in the motorhome around Estartit for a few weeks because we had to leave in December.

We went to Romania with my parents’ car that they bought from Spain and with their stuff that was in Spain since they finally retired. For me too it was a sad period of time to see my parents leave…after almost 2 decades of staying together in Spain.

I and Sasha drove 2.500km to Romania with their car. Not easy. Especially since I just got my driving license. We stayed in Airbnb’s and it took us a few days to arrive in Romania. Only one time we fought over some stuff…else we managed it.

I have to pause here a bit.

Very few people understand my digestive issues and how they impact my life. Many foods make me sick. Sometimes they can trigger an explosive diarrhea in me and is as bad as it sounds, I can’t explain it other way. And I feel sick for days after. This has created traumas for me since several times I almost shit myself, and when I was a kid it happened at least 1 time. It is awful and idk when it can happen. So I need to be careful with what I eat and where I am. Plus I really am scared to eat out…I developed a trauma. Not to mention the many times I feel pain because of these issues….and discomfort. So even driving to Romania was a big challenge for me and the fight we had was because of my digestive issues – I became irritated.

So it is not an easy life for me. Sasha always helped me and she understood me. I thank her so much for that! And I am sorry that because of my issues I was not at all eager to “go out” have a drink and eat something…

I was in Romania. Sasha only stayed a week or so. Her plan was to go to Russia to see her family. I was happy for her since she rarely gets to see them.

We met in late January 2025 in Spain to FINALLY go out with the motorhome!

For a few weeks we stayed in Estartit to do more work on the motorhome. A cousin of Sasha also visited us. We spent some time with some friends there too (Sasha’s coworkers from diving).

17th of February we left!

We were going to the South of Spain to meet with some friends. Another “TROM” meeting, this time not in “my town”. Excited. But also we rushed because of that.

We traveled for 3 months and we saw some amazing places:

I think Sasha also enjoyed it a lot. It is true at times it was hard for us. Especially for me I feel like because I was so not used to this lifestyle and I also just got my driving license. But hey…is normal!

I also made a mistake: I was filming our new lifestyle and that is not a good idea. I was inspired by others who do that, and I thought I’d like to inspire others too, plus provide tips for how to live in this way. But I (and sometimes Sasha too) ended up filming too much at times. And then I ended up with a pile of recordings that I felt obliged to transform into videos. A bunch of times I’d spend hours in the motorhome editing them while Sasha was out and about, climbing some mountains. I should have gone out too.

I will continue to make videos but mostly about tips and such, not to film everywhere I go. This is a bad idea.

At times I felt pushed, pulled, or dragged by Sasha. We both had an extreme lifestyle that we kinda craved for. She wants to climb mountains, be active, go go go…she is so damn active :). Idk how anyone can keep up with her. So she wanted to go visit too many places I felt, and then go go go more! She hated to be the motorhome much. When we arrived at some place she would get out right away, while I was a bit tired and wanted to take it slower.

I am also extreme. I can spend days inside the motorhome working on my computer and be fine. I want my time to read, write, watch, make projects, absorb information.

So our worlds were so apart it was hard to make it work that well. Despite that most of the time we had a great time, also considering these were our first 3 months living this lifestyle that for me was wildly new.

Unfortunately we had to go back before the end of May because Sasha had to work again in diving in Estartit. We were running low on money.

This thing fucked up our relationship. We should have honestly found a different way to make money. At least talk about that…Sasha never really wanted to talk about other options. I am all ready to compromise, sacrifice, in my limits ofc, to make money and support our relationship. I was also working on some commercial websites that I hate, just to make money that period of time.

We were both making compromises. But to me it was worth it in order to build a good/solid relationship and make our lives better.

Same story goes…Sasha works in diving for several months. I go to Romania help my parents with some stuff. I and Sasha do not see each other much. I come back and my father has some serious health issues. Was a lot of stress.

Was this time when I sat down in bed with Sasha, feeling that we grew more apart these months, and asked her what would be your ideal life. She hesitated so I started first. I said I dream of us being a team, work together on TROM like projects, create events, meet new people, volunteer, do important stuff. While at the same time travel with the motorhome and see amazing places, have a wonderful and happy life together.

Her ideal life was a dry: I would like to go solo hiking like before.

I asked if she sees me in her ideal life. It was another dry: no, sorry.

Perhaps that was the moment I should have insisted to end it all?! She for sure did not have the courage to go further with that. After all I was the one asking…trying to understand what is happening with us…and I was also destroyed by these health issues with my father. I was tired, mentally and physically.

So idk what happened next…but things moved on. I thought maybe she just said that now when is this difficult period of time with her working…but from that moment on I tried to prepare myself to distance from her emotionally. Tho I did not manage it very well. Is hard when you still live together….

I told her that. It was soul crushing for me to see that her dream life is only about her.

It is what it is.

You know…yes Sasha from the beginning said she craves for her past lifestyle. She also worked in diving and sacrificed for us. She went from traveling with her backpack around the world to staying with me in Estartit for 5 years. Yes it was so difficult and different for her.

But you know what:

Sasha came to me….she forced herself into my life. She knew I was not like a hiker…I was the opposite. The Sasha I met was the Sasha from that video I linked at the beginning.
We met because of TROM. I liked her activism brain first. She lost that quite fast and became uninterested in these projects. You think is easy for me to see this?! I was destroyed…
My life also changed a lot. I never lived with another human in this kind of relationship. I also had to sacrifice for her to get the papers by all means to get the residency. To put up with her very depressed states when she was working on her book….not to mention the motorohme life was very tough for me to adapt to….Also TROM…had to put on hold projects and such, just because I prioritized this relationship.
Why didn’t she try to fix our relationship like I did when I struggled with the attraction towards her, with her book, with so many things…I always tried to fix these issues and communicate. She not so much. At least don’t drag me into this relationship if you are not happy.
Also, let’s find a better way to make money so we don’t fuck up this relationship…why not even consider!?

Since that moment I didn’t feel like Sasha is someone who cares much about me. In my head Sasha was with me temporarily until she leaves to go back to her backpacking lifestyle.

I was kinda crushed…

I also had some health issues. Then motivational struggles. Then problems with my father. Not a good period of time.

I went to travel with the motorhome on my own while Sasha kept working in diving…

At times I felt very lonely…but I still had Sasha no?! Maybe after this working season is done we can say “fuck this diving job” and go have a life, try it, see if it works or not. Despite all she said…

Told her that if she really wants to go have her backpacking life back please tell me and let’s do it nicely. I told her that many times over the years. She never followed this discussion….So that left me with nowhere to go…I cared about her, I wanted for us to stay together…what should I have done? I gave her the opportunity to at least talk more about breaking up, but she never took it. So maybe I thought she is not that serious about it…idk…momentary frustration that will pass.

I was trying my best to reboot myself. Working on a big and important article. Trying to release a new TROM project, content based, a first in years. It was an important moment for me to try and find myself again.

You see for the past year I told Sasha several times I am not doing well mentally. I felt lost for the first time in my life. Totally lost. I felt like all of these important things I talked about since 2007 have 0 impact. The many hours of documentaries I made, thousands of written pages, many projects… Even for the few close people who agreed with them….they are all sucked into the system. Including Sasha! I was so destroyed to see Sasha go from this witty engaged human who wants to talk about these projects and the problems we have in our society and solutions to these, to become mostly a passive divemaster for the season…and it was hard for her too, to see this happening. But she never asked for help or opened up herself about these…maybe I could have helped. I wanted to and perhaps I still want to. Because she has a tremendous brain full of interesting ideas that she should use and be more than just a divemaster or a hiker. Nothing bad with these, but the powerful Sasha, in my view, is the one who I saw in TROM II, or in that video presentation, or on her blog, or in her book!

So I felt like is just me for the past years trying to keep TROM afloat….

Anyway. Bad bad months.

I came back in Estartit mid October 2025. I was still super happy to see her.

She was still kinda busy….She finished in November.

Because of some more paperwork stuff we had to stay around Estartit till mid December.

I remember one thing bothered me a lot. A friend of hers, a coworker from diving, asked Sasha if she can go feed their dog while they are in vacation for a few days. I was ok with that for a few days. The guy is also my friend. He said we can stay at their apartment too if we want. Sasha said yes…but days became a week…

Instead of us going together to travel, we had to stay longer in Estartit. Sasha would have to go visit her mom in late January so we didn’t have much time for us, again…choosing to stay longer in Estartit bothered me and I told her. In the beginning I was ok since she said 2-3 days, but a week….

Also she was a lot more comfortable staying in their apartment while I was in the motorhome parked closed by. For me the motorhome is the coziest place…our home…but not for Sasha. I am also weird and I hate to stay in people’s homes. I am not used to that. It is on me.

But basically what relationship is this?

And also bothered me because if we were to stay in Estartit for my own reasons, say my sister needed help with something, delaying our travels, Sasha would have been so pissed off.

Anyway…these small things are perhaps a sign of a bigger problem.

Sasha got food poisoning when staying there and I forgot about all of this. I rushed to help. Anything she needed…a massage, go buy stuff…anything I was there for her. I mention all of this as an example that regardless if I was annoyed at her decisions, I was always there for her. 2026 when it all ruptured.

We went to travel again, second time in a year. We had a few weeks to go to the South of Spain again, meet some friends, then take Sasha to the airport.

In fact we spent some nice time together..

But as always in a rush…

I did feel many times like Sasha has her shoes and jacket on and ready to leave. As if she is not here with me for the long term….she went to US to see her mom and had a great time there. I was really happy for her.

Whenever she was abroad we talked a lot and I felt like we had a great relationship.

The plan was for her to stay there for a month then come back and in May to go for 2 months to Iceland for a solo trip…Iceland. Where it all froze.

She told me months prior to this that she would love to do this trip if that would be ok with me. As always I wanted for her to be happy so I supported her fully.

After all I wrote even I get to see more clearly now that this was a bad sign. I mean we already spent almost no time together for the past 2 or so years or more…and what she wanted so badly was not to spend time together, go visit some cool places, get involved with the kind of work that brought us together….no…she wanted something for herself. I feel like an idiot now to be honest…and she should not have dragged me into this.

If she was so not liking our life together, tell me! But what now…you also stay with me while you plan for your trip. I am your support buddy…your little fan excited for you. While you only do this for yourself…looks terrible and sad for me.

But anyway, I supported her.

She came back from the states. Idk if I felt like Sasha was excited to see me for the past 2 or so years. But I was open to end the relationship if she was vocal about that…and I tried to get something out of her. But she just dragged it…maybe she was confused and didn’t know how to approach it.

Because of her cold attitude and some stress that is at times normal when you live in such a small space, and our different lifestyles with me feeling dragged by her, when she left for the states I felt sadness but also a sort of feeling relaxed….like oh now I can take it slowly, write stuff, read stuff, focus on my projects…not having to ALWAYS go somewhere.

That is another bad sign for the relationship.

She was happy and excited, but only for her trip. She was organizing it all….I mean look, our relationship aside, you can tell this is what made her happy….I was equally happy when I went to Prague for the TZM event….but I was always happy in the context of the relationship. Sasha always mattered for me. If I were to somehow have the chance to go do more such events that I love (my thing) I would always include Sasha somehow. And always care about her….I honestly felt like a side thing all of this time when Sasha was organizing her trip.

I felt deep down that this trip may make her finally decide she wants to leave…but it was just a thought that crossed my mind.

One last time with the motorhome.

Before leaving to Iceland we decided to go for one more month together with the motorhome. And honestly it was quite wonderful…

So you see..despite problems we still could get along. Find a way to be happy. Look, ALL relationships that are a few years old at least, will struggle at times. IT IS NORMAL! The key is to support each other and make it work.

For fucks sake there are war journalists who go for months at a time to conflict zones and their partner is “at home” and they make it work. Or professional athletes, or whatever. It all matters if you WANT to take care of this relationship and make it work. And I did. A lot. I was always ready to make compromises, to support Sasha if she wanted to solo travel for some time, to adapt, to COMMUNICATE! After all, I felt no physical attraction to Sasha when we met…but I decided this relationship is so important I want to “grow it”. And I did!

These months I still struggled with my depression and especially some health issues that were making me concerned. Won’t go into details but lower abdominal and groin pain for a year or so…I was in pain. Not fun for me…

I took Sasha to the airport so she can start her Iceland trip. The trip.

It is hard to say how much I supported her with this trip and how excited I was for her. Genuinely.

Mind you when she left we were on very good terms…all lovely and nice.

First month she stayed with a family (workaway). We talked daily. At times for hours. She would share a lot with me. I tried not to bother her at all, let her have her solo adventures. But it was her many times who contacted me. And I enjoyed that.

I was staying in Estartit because of my health issues but also because my sister needed me, so I was helping her.

After staying with that family Sasha went for her true solo traveling in Iceland. Exciting!

She was again sharing with me photos, videos, info…I loved it and I was so happy about her.

This is impossible for people to fully get, but if I were to share our Signal conversation for the entire Iceland trip you would say our relationship was great. She even said 2-3 times that maybe we can take the motorhome to Iceland. I was actually surprised to see her care about sharing stuff with me, even thinking of new adventures for us.

In my mind I hoped maybe this adventure made her realize that she can do these but also have a relationship with me. So we can continue like that…The bad day.

I started to feel like we could have a real chance to truly try this motorhome lifestyle and become happier after her trip. I was taking care of my health more closely, my parents were ok finally, I managed to “get my brain back” via the new TROM project, I got a lot of experience in terms of living in a motorhome and getting used to it; even managing it financially myself relying only on donations. Sasha was charging up by doing her Icelanding solo adventures. We have planned a wonderful meetup coming in August for the eclipse with our most wonderful friends…

I was looking to buy 2 bikes and a bike rack so we can also bike when we go places. This year should have been the last Sasha would have worked in diving in Estartit. I didn’t film anymore our “adventures” and I focused on practical videos, so that won’t bother us.

I wanted to be a lot more physically active so I was planning to go out with Sasha more, and not be a motorhome snail.

I felt like now is the perfect time to give this life a true GO. Was dreaming about the Fjords in Norway, Dolomites in Italy, or other places to go with the motorhome….

But now…

Basically Sasha came back from her Icelandic trip and the same day she told me she hooked up with a guy (just a one time thing) and she realized she loves that freedom to go travel alone, meet new people, etc..

I felt like a piece of the Moon fell on my head. It was late at night when she told me and after an entire day when she seemed a bit cold but at times happy about her Icelandic trip. How can you laugh and tell us fun stories when you know later on you will end a 7 year old relationship…and you also cheated on me? Was very trippy for me the entire thing. That entire day. Totally unexpected.

I never felt more betrayed, scammed, fooled….and deeply disappointed. I will never fully get over this. I cried the first 2 days, and I didn’t even know how to do that since I don’t remember last time I cried. I felt emotionally destroyed. I felt like chocking and suffocating.

Luckily I have the best friends on Earth, and especially my sister who helped me so much. I stayed at her place for a few days. I just could not get back into the motorhome without feeling like suffocating.

The past year was truly difficult for me. Many health issues…with my father (he had 3 strokes), with me (unexplained abdominal pain and back pain for over a year), with my sister. I was also struggling motivationally to “reboot” myself. So Sasha caught me in one of my weakest moments. This is why I was so destroyed. Yes I was about to “get out” of these problems exactly when she came. Like literally I planned to release the TROM project the day after she would arrive….So I was in a deep black hole, then I felt like I found a way out (but still dragging trauma with me), and exactly when I was about to get out a bit, Sasha slapped me with this horrible news.

Is been 2 weeks since that awful event. The health issues are not as much of an issue now for me or my family. I managed to release a new TROM Project that is content based. A first in years.

I had a long discussion with Sasha last week. She cried a lot all of this time since it happened. She feels so guilty and understands she took some absolutely shitty decisions. She gets it. After the conversation I understood even more how Sasha has been terrible at communicating with me her struggles and frustrations in our relationship. I always communicated with her and I had the impression that she is capable enough to be able to communicate back. But I remember many times she could not handle us communicating over important issues. She would cry. This is something she needs to fix else she will fuck herself up in any relationship, and the other one(s) too. She already messed me up.

Despite me being better now, at times I feel 100% lost and no will to live. All is dark and I am so sad and frustrated at all of this.

All of our struggles, cuddles and adventures…all to be gone just like that…so stupid!! so so stupid!

Sasha had a week, at least, to prepare for this. I had no second. There was no indication this is imminent and definitely not in this way. Sasha was in a position of advantage where she found a new path in life that makes her happy. She has that. I have none. She should have been wise about it and come help me a bit, to maybe find a path myself. Talk to me. Do not cheat ffs. Hold yourself for one more week so you don’t fuck up 7 years.

Looking back at our relationship I think we are 2 extreme people. I love doing computer work, activism, write, read, make projects and get involved. The world makes me furious and curious. She loves to go solo hiking, meet new people, see amazing places, make videos about that, or blogs or books.

I do not know if this would ever have worked. But I do feel like Sasha did not give the relation a serious try, to communicate with me when she was unhappy, to try fix things, to prioritize us. I am sure that if both people want to keep this relationship and make it work, and these people are smart, they can find ways even for their extreme lifestyles. We are not unique in that sense. We could have traveled with the motorhome to some cool places where Sasha would like to also hike for a few weeks if she wanted to, and we would meet somewhere else aftter. In this time I could work on TROM without being bothered.

We could spend the rest of the time finding new ways to spice up our relationship, do new things, create events that revolve around TROM-like ideas, meet new people, volunteer, do important stuff.

So we can both have a wonderful life together. Especially since is hard by yourself in this system. Financially, emotionally, physically. Being together is very helpful. The older you get, the more important these deep relationships became.So: What do I do with myself?

I have no answer to that. I have theories like what I should do, but in practice is hard. I will update this part whenever I am able to do something with myself. For now I suffer. I cannot sleep much. I feel a deep sadness almost like a cold that does not go away.

I wish I can share my life with someone who wants to be active in this way and we can work together on projects and events, but also go see cool places and have a wonderful life together. And care about each other. I learned to care about this girl Sasha and to like her, and I created a strong bound with her, because I used my brain and not my hormones. But the trauma, the fact that I trusted her so much and she cheated on me in many ways, will make me not want to trust any relationship 100%. Something broke inside of me. Perhaps being alone is better…perhaps….

Maybe I will meet someone, but maybe I do not need anyone.

I do not regret my life with Sasha. I learned and experienced new things. But at times I wonder…is it better to learn to “love” and care about someone so deeply, to experience that, and then be cheated like I was and be devastated? Almost like climbing a tall mountain and have a crushing crash….Or is better to be alone and never have experienced such “love” and feelings in the first place? When I was alone, no one could have hurt me in this way. And I really liked that.

And just to mention this, for me the real cheating was not her sleeping with whatever ice climbing guide in Iceland, after a few beers and some wine. For me the real cheating is her staying in this relationship with me for years and not telling me if she was frustrated or sad or unhappy. The fact that she did not try to either fix the relationship or move apart in a friendly way. That is far worse. Years of cheating, giving me false ideas and hopes. After all when Sasha came to meet me and she had a huge crush on me, and me not feeling any physical attraction to her, I decided to not crush her feelings, to the contrary, to learn how to like and love her. She does not have to do the same, not at all, but to take a smart decision that won’t destroy me and create a life long trauma.

I do not hate her. And I hope she will be ok and happy. I would suffer if she were to suffer. But she has to understand she made me not trust any relationship fully, or have much hope in humans overall. Idk if she ever experienced this and I hope she won’t. Honestly.

There is not one day that I do not think about what Sasha did to me, after I have been so kind and helpful and loving to her. But is something I get to accept instead of ignoring. I guess most people go with their feelings and I am the weird one who thinks that is far more rewarding and smart to grow a relationship for the long term. I’d rather have a handful of friends and a partner for the rest of my life, together exploring and helping us and others, and have a great ride with a few people who “get you”, than have more and more friends, and relationships, that are not very deep or important. But again, that’s me. That’s what I prefer.

Life/time forces us all to continue. We suffer, we adapt, we change and accept. Some do not have the strength to let time deal with problems, so they shorten it. I will try to find strength, to focus on other things. But is going to be the toughest thing I ever did…

And is funny how Roxanne and TVP did the same to me. After a years-long relationship where I helped them a lot, and they gave me the impression that all is fine, they slap me with a: “Bye bye I want to break up because things were bad for the past months/years!” …. Whaat???

That’s what happens when you are unable to communicate. You hurt people tremendously by dragging them into a relationship that you yourself know is not working and you are not trying to fix it.

Dude but they left you crumbs to follow….being cold with you, ignoring you, not being excited by you…both TVP and Sasha….

I HATE when people do this and it is awful. Especially if you notice it and try to open the path towards communication with them. Build the bridge and ask them what is the problem. And them not following up….leaving things hanging….this is a terrible way of having any sort of relationship.

BAD.

After TVP broke up with me my life became a lot better. Well, you know, I even met Sasha. But it took a year or two. How will be my life now after Sasha broke up with me? I hope better, but right now I cannot see it.

I feel abandoned by my best friend. It will take time to adjust to a different lifestyle.UPDATE 18.08.2026

Since I made this post I also met with Sasha to give her the last stuff she had in the motorhome. We talked for a few hours. Again a lot of emotional heaviness for both of us. She red this post. She says she did try to talk to me, but I think we both agree she did not do it too much or very well.

Anyway after we met I got to see how convinced she is that this relationship is dead basically. Not even because of her cheating, but because she got fully convinced she wants a different life. It is absolutely ridiculous and astonishing to me how we went from a great relationship for the past months, at least from my perspective and anyone else who could see it from “afar”, and the past 2 months of her in Iceland and us having some really nice discussions on Signal and even slight plans to go with the motorhome there, to DONE. THIS IS IT! Just like that. One hour is all it took for Sasha to put an end to it all.

I get it that she already fucked it up by hooking up with that guide, and she was confused for the past year or so about what she wants, and she also found happiness in solo hiking through Iceland….but man….imagine how it feels to me….your “loved one”, “your partner of 7 years”, to come to you and say is all done now. Bye bye. We said “I love u” and sent “cute emojis” on Signal just a week prior to this haha. This is insanity honestly. The more I think about it.

Anyway, I think I have all of the right in the world to be absolutely devastated and feel abandoned and lost.

Here’s another thing I want to emphasis for my future self who will read this article years from now, because I don’t want you to forget that: like I said my father had 3 strokes for the past year and we went through an emotional hell for many months. Every time my mother would call me I was thinking that’s it, he died, so I felt this lump in my throat answering the phone. The so may times we talked to her, and she was crying. Or seeing my father barely able to talk. This was a first time for us, to deal with such big issues. So I was emotionally traumatized for this part year. And I still am because my father is quite fragile now. Even an hour ago my mother called me and the internet signal was not great and I felt like she had watery eyes and could not understand what she wanted….had to call her back. All was fine, but I felt that feeling of terror again. Is normal….

So trust me when I say this: Sasha caught me in perhaps my most fragile mental states I had in perhaps 2 decades. Some days it is so hard for me, I cannot describe. I still hope I am somehow dreaming and I will wake up: Sasha comes back from Iceland and we have a decent relationship, and even if we are to break, we do so gently and in a friendly way. I feel like the Universe did a fuck up on me and is so unfair it should not exist. So I am waiting for a fix :D.

On the positive side I need to remind myself that Sasha was not that “into me” recently and I felt like I was to her just a friend, someone she knows, at best. Which is so sad to me. I need to let go of the past, but is not easy. Best is to keep myself focused on something else.

I started a Friends Friday Signal chat and each Friday we try to get together and talk to each other. Who are “we”? A bunch of people who know about TROM and in time started to orbit around the project. We got to know each other well, and now I’d like us to keep in touch more closely because we all need each other. The world is a weird place and is so easy to get sucked in and become normalized, to forget about the important things. We should try to keep ourselves afloat. That’s how I also met Sasha…and is the greatest regret of my life that it didn’t work out with her. I would have loved to have her there too…as a partner, as a friend, as Big World Small Sasha.

I really enjoyed our first meetup and the rest did too! We will do more and see where things go.

I will get ready for the eclipse the following days and will try to keep my relationship with the people I know, a bit more active.

I hope Sasha will be ok. She cried enough. And we will see if, in the future, we can become friends. It is damn hard to see this now.

Ok, I have to wake up from this eventually. It is either a bad dream and I wake up, or reality which I need to take a hold of and make it better.

The immigrants are being considered outsiders because we divide ...

2026-10-11T07:34:24Z

The immigrants are being considered outsiders because we divide our world into tribes and put borders in place. Often tribes from the North have exploited and still exploit the ones from the South. Take their resources, influence their politics, enslave, corrupt, destroy their nature, send their garbage to them, start and maintain conflicts in these regions. And so, poor and beaten up humans from these regions seek for an escape. And many of them come to these “developed” tribes to have a better life. Is like these rich tribes are lighting up their shoelaces with matches, and wonder why their pants are on fire.

Combine that with primitive values on both sides, like: We are Christians, We are Muslims, We are Jews, this or that, my God, no…my God!, and is like drinking gasoline while your pants are on fire.

Such a terrible mix.

Snippet from Culture Cancer: tromsite.com/2026/07/culture-c…

#immigration #immigrants #migration #culture #trom #tromsite #tromarticles

The AI Doc Or How I Became An Apocaloptimist - ...

2026-09-26T19:32:43Z

The AI Doc Or How I Became An Apocaloptimist - videoneat.com/documentaries/26…

A good documentary about Artificial Intelligence. I recommend.

#ai #artificialintelligence #documentary #videoneat

Look, if I were to live in this town, in this tribe, and I speak ...

2026-09-25T13:03:57Z

Look, if I were to live in this town, in this tribe, and I speak this language. I grow up here. Is not paradise, but is ok. I know some people, some shops where I buy food from, I have a life routine. Then some people from other tribes come here, they do not speak the local language (the only one I know), they may sell drugs on the streets, make a bit of a mess, are loud and different…I will get bothered! It is normal. Let alone if they come in with all sorts of crazy ideas like religion…it may feel like a nightmare to me. We have to understand this aspect too.

But also the fact that the vast majority of immigrants are going to integrate and are as good or bad as the locals. Only a minority of immigrants go on to commit crimes, especially violent ones. And broadly, the crimes committed by immigrants are a mix of political and media exaggeration, socio-economic pressures, police practices, discrimination, etc..

Snippet from Culture Cancer - tromsite.com/2026/07/culture-c…

#immigration #migrants #trom #tromarticles #world #religion #culture

The truth is that a lot, if not most culture clashes happen ...

2026-09-07T08:33:03Z

The truth is that a lot, if not most culture clashes happen because of our Trade Based Society. People are forced into migrating from one part to another on this semi-round rock. Combine that with the fact that most such humans are specialized workers who know little about the world or have no time to learn, and the mix is as good as putting 100 crying babies in one tiny room. Or 20 snakes, 30 goats, 2 lions, 23 alligators, and 14 otters. Plus 200 rats. Same room. You can even keep the crying babies there for fun.

I came to Catalonia because my parents were so poor they had to leave Romania and come work as slaves almost, in this Catalonian “paradise”. Better paid yes, but also overworked, illegal working contracts, badly treated.

When I came to Catalonia I did not care about their culture, or language. I didn’t even know they speak Catalan and not Spanish. As far as I knew, I came to Spain. I had no idea about Catalonia’s history, or Spain’s history, or anything else. I came here because of socio-economic pressures and was here to try to have a better life for myself and my family.

Do you think my father would give a flying fuck about the Catalan Culture when he was working 6-7 days a week, 12 hours a day? Look how he looked, like a zombie.

And we know countless people in very similar situations who came to Catalonia because of the same poverty reasons. From Europe, South America, Africa…

Is not easy to leave your family in Romania, let alone Africa, and come work in Catalonia in the tourism industry, or in a field somewhere picking up apples. This is hardly a choice…If these people would have had a good life in their tribes, for sure they would have stayed there.

Snippet from Culture Cancer - tromsite.com/2026/07/culture-c…

#culture #catalonia #catalunia #immigration #immigrants #migrants #europe #spain

In 2017 some leaders in Catalonia decided to allow people to vote ...

2026-08-31T16:24:53Z

In 2017 some leaders in Catalonia decided to allow people to vote for independence from Spain. The entire thing ended up in a lot of violence, particularly from the side of the Spanish police who was deployed to basically destroy this voting initiative. I was in Catalonia at that time. I remember it was a lot of violence of that sort.

videos.trom.tf/w/rfdBrDfQ1MQdb…

Of course people should be able to decide if they want to be independent, and not have their heads smashed by the police for trying to vote for independence, but all that considered, everyone is free to speak Catalan in Catalonia, express their cultural traditions, and so forth. The school is primarily in Catalan. Everything is in Catalan first or Catalan only. No Catalan is treated differently from a Spaniard.

So why do they want independence now?

Money? Politics? The hope that if Catalonia becomes a nation then their living standards will be higher and their culture will be more important? Their language has more chances of being preserved?

A hope for a better life if they become independent maybe?

It is hard to see how this can be the case because being an “independent” tribe is hardly doable today. Your stuff, imports and exports, media, tourism, the trade society itself, will push and pull on your language, society and culture and morph them in the process. Just like it does now. Look at the “island nation UK” who has 0 neighbors basically, is independent, is a bloody island. And yet many there complain about their culture loss, immigration, difficult living conditions, etc.. Being independent, your own tribe, is hardly a shield that can preserve your culture.

But since this Catalonian region went through a lot, it also changed in the process. Is like someone kidnapped a kid from Japan at age 8, takes her to US where she grows up. Then at the age of 40 she is free from the kidnapper. But when she returns to Japan she realizes she is not simply the same 8 year old Japanese girl. And Japan is also a different place. She speaks English and was enculturated into the American tribe.

Is she Japanese still? And what does that mean? Things have changed, and she needs to embrace her new identity.

The Catalan language is quite similar to the Spanish one nowadays because they have merged in many ways. There are so many foreigners here too from the rest of Europe but also South America. Spanish is spoken by more people in Catalonia than Catalan. Catalonia is a different girl, and no one is saying she has to forget the past trauma, but she cannot come back to before the trauma. She needs to embrace her new identity.

Snippet from Culture Cancer - tromsite.com/2026/07/culture-c…

#catalonia #catala #catalans #spain #independence #tromarticles #trom

The Catalans experienced a sort of stage 3-4 Culture Cancer in ...

2026-08-29T11:21:49Z

The Catalans experienced a sort of stage 3-4 Culture Cancer in their past.

Between 1939 and 1975 Catalonia was under the dictatorship of Franco. A terrible idiot ruling over the entire Spain, but who was particularly anti Catalonia and anything that has to do with Catalonia. He was violent and banned the Catalonian language, alongside other languages in Spain. Only the Spanish language was accepted!

No one in Catalonia was allowed to write books in Catalan, even speak Catalan. They were under a complete siege. A total destruction of their culture is what this douchebag wanted.

In one of the Catalonian towns they shouted: “Catalan dogs! You are not worthy of the sun that shines on you.”

Needless to say Franco’s hatred against Catalans was nuclear. Many got killed, most of them oppressed and imprisoned. Fear, anxiety, how the fuck can you live like this?

Luckily after nearly 4 decades of terror that idiot died and with him his powers. Catalonia regained its culture, language, institutions, a regional independence and so on. For several decades they have tried to unglue themselves from this Spaniffication.

As you can see there was a lot of trauma when it comes to the people living in Catalonia.

So maybe this is the reason why some people in Catalonia are so desperate to hold onto their language and culture, and as a result marginalize the outsiders?

Snippet from Culture Cancer - tromsite.com/2026/07/culture-c…

#catalonia #catalan #catala #history #spain #culture #trom #tromaticles

Think about the Nazi and what they did to a “culture of ...

2026-08-25T15:49:49Z

Think about the Nazi and what they did to a “culture of people”. That is stage 4 Culture Cancer. The situation is truly critical.

That case of Culture Cancer left 6 million people dead just because they were “Jews” .

Speaking of Jews, Israel has systematically murdered, starved, and abused many tens of thousands of people in Gaza. Has destroyed hospitals, targeted doctors and journalists, refused to let food in leading to mass starvation, and overall leveled almost the entire Gaza.

Such a terrible irony….

Snippet from Culture Cancer - tromsite.com/2026/07/culture-c…

#gaza #palestine #israel #jews #muslims #nazi #germany

Another example of stage 2-3 Culture Cancer is that of the ...

2026-08-22T17:18:25Z

Another example of stage 2-3 Culture Cancer is that of the occupation of West Bank by Israel. They have literally caged in a group of people, like you would do with livestock for consumption.

On top of that some people from the Israeli tribe are forcefully taking the land from the West Bank residents, beating, mocking them, even murdering them.

An example:

One of the Israeli settlers “hoarding” a Palestinian woman, mocking her as if she is a cattle. And filming all at the same time. Did I mention that he is holding a riffle?

In the video you can see him making the same noises that the Palestinians make to hoard their animals. The Israeli leaders tolerate and even encourage this behavior.I recommend these two documentaries to see the insane cancerous situation between Israel and the West Bank:

No Other Land - videoneat.com/documentaries/26…
Louis Theroux: The Settlers - videoneat.com/documentaries/26…

These are examples of a stage 2-3 Culture Cancer. It has spread significantly and it is hard to tackle. Thus it has a great influence over a population of people who can turn violent against each other.

#israel #gaza #westbank #settlers #war #genocide #jews #jew #palestine #palestinian #abuse

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If you want to truly understand what culture really is, I highly ...

2026-08-15T09:37:14Z

If you want to truly understand what culture really is, I highly recommend the Anthropology and the Study of Humanity course that delves deep into the history of our cultures, from what we may regard as “primitive” societies, to kingdoms, or today’s “civilization”. 24 lectures full of rich information. All trade-free.

Here - videoneat.com/courses/26806/an…

#course #culture #videoneat

The height of the hypocrisy of holding tight to your own culture ...

2026-08-10T14:48:48Z

The height of the hypocrisy of holding tight to your own culture and land is the fact that ALL inventions, research and human knowledge that is at the basis of any society, all of that comes from people from all around the world.

Without the British Isaac Newton we would not understand how objects move on this planet, maybe we would be unable to build many of the infrastructure of our modern cities.

Nuclear energy, modern cosmology, or GPS technology would not be possible without the US German immigrant Albert Einstein who studied in Switzerland.

Would we have telescopes or even the modern science without the Italian Galileo Galilei? Or medicine and healthcare without the French Louis Pasteur?

The Internet, gadgets, buildings and blueprints, discoveries and experiments, are all a mush of work being done by humans from all around the world, from different tribes. So it is astonishingly hypocritical and primitive to “hold onto your own tribe, your own culture” as if you did anything for it or it belongs to a particular group of people.

#science #culture #tromarticles #trom #tromsite

This is me and my best friend at that time. Peak early 2000. We ...

2026-08-08T12:27:05Z

This is me and my best friend at that time. Peak early 2000.

We were lip-syncing (popular back then) Romanian rap songs on the stage, having fun. Bomfunk’s MC, breakdance, spiky hair, loose clothes. Nothing to do with the Romanian culture, of course.

So let’s be real for a bit here, all of those Catalan, or Romanian, or whatever cultural traditions are at best a day in the calendar for most people, since most people absorb their values from a wider world, through a lot of means: from music to platforms, movies to books.

For better or for worse.

Snippet from Culture Cancer - tromsite.com/2026/07/culture-c…

#catalonia #romania #spain #culture #breakdance

In Spain is quite impossible to rent any place for long term ...

2026-08-06T07:17:56Z

In Spain is quite impossible to rent any place for long term since the owners of apartments and houses prefer to rent for tourists: short term, more money. But who are these owners? Spanish, Catalans…

Same Spaniards or Catalans would prefer to employ immigrants for a lower pay and no paperwork since it is more profitable for them. Money is a lot stronger of an influence than culture.

Snippet from Culture Cancer - tromsite.com/2026/07/culture-c…

#catalonia #catalunia #spain #culture #money #tradesociety #capitalism

In Catalonia they provide courses for “immigrants” to learn ...

2026-08-05T10:49:55Z

In Catalonia they provide courses for “immigrants” to learn Catalan so they can integrate into the society. We know many Moroccans who take these courses, and sometimes they can even get benefits from taking them.

But then if you look at their Muslim culture it has nothing to do with the Catalan one. So what if they know Catalan? Does that mean they are vessels of the Catalan culture? Of course not.

Don’t get me wrong is good to help people integrate, if they so wish, but don’t regard it as if these people are bending to the culture, since it can be vice-versa and they can lead to the mutation of culture. From USA to Catalonia and everywhere else.

Snippet from Culture Cancer - tromsite.com/2026/07/culture-c…

#catala #catalan #catalonia #immigrants #culture #tromarticles #trom #tromsite

Everyone knows this guy unfortunately (Trump) and how he wants to ...

2026-08-04T12:55:26Z

Everyone knows this guy unfortunately (Trump) and how he wants to make America Great “Again”… And how he is deporting so many “illegal” immigrants, and how he makes it difficult for others to come to the USA tribe.

Here is him posing proudly with the US Physics team that won five gold medals at the 2025 International Physics Olympiad:

These are all children of immigrants. As you can tell.
None is a “native” American, whatever that means.

Snippet from Culture Cancer - tromsite.com/2026/07/culture-c…

#usa #migrants #immigration #culture #trom #tromsite #tromarticles

Of course pretty much all products in Catalonia come from abroad: ...

2026-08-03T08:08:43Z

Of course pretty much all products in Catalonia come from abroad: food, clothes, cars, electronics. I cannot name a single product that is Catalan made. Same goes for Spain overall or any other tribe. Their phones, the apps they use, the knowledge they have, research, even media, everything either comes from outside or is remixed from outside.

So what is so unique about your tribe?

Snippet from Culture Cancer - tromsite.com/2026/07/culture-c…

#culture #tromsite #capitalism #money #trade #tradebasedsociety #profit

Snippet from Culture Cancer - tromsite.com/2026/07/culture-c… ...

2026-08-02T14:26:46Z

Snippet from Culture Cancer - tromsite.com/2026/07/culture-c…

#culture #traditions #religion #tromarticles #tromsite

Ideas revolving around religion, family, sexual orientation, and ...

2026-07-30T13:52:13Z

Ideas revolving around religion, family, sexual orientation, and so forth, have been changing and mutating a lot over the years. What was once prohibited in one culture has become the norm in the same culture, and vice versa. From women being allowed to vote, to gay marriage, or the separation of religion from state. In our book “Morality and Ethics” we showcase how the norms, traditions and what it was accepted as “normal” in the past, changed over millennia, from culture to culture.

Therefore any discussion about “our culture, language, traditions” should always be put under the powerful light of history in order to understand that these “things” are remixes at best, and will always be. This, I think, is crucial in order for us, humans, to be able to have relevant discussions about them, without being too emotionally entangled with them. To put everything into a historical, and realistic, perspective.

Snippet from Culture Cancer - tromsite.com/2026/07/culture-c…

#culture #culturecancer #trom #tromsite #tromarticles #traditions

How many people celebrate the holy-days today in the same way ...

2026-07-26T11:13:22Z

How many people celebrate the holy-days today in the same way that people celebrated them 50-100 years ago?

I know that for us, coming from a very religious tribe called Romania, Christmas was more about the Christmas tree, presents, food and Coca-Cola. Oh and watching Home Alone on repeat. Nothing to do with the original Christmas “holy” day. Or anything Romanian specific either.

And so it was the case for everyone I knew. And that’s one of the many “holy” days that today have become mostly about consuming.

The forces of our trade-based society with its marketing tentacles, are transforming the culture more than any dictators and philosophers do. That you should keep in mind.

#culture #culturecancer #trom #tromsite #holiday #holidays #romania #homealone #christmas #cocacola #money #TradeRuinsEverything

For the past few releases our TROMjaro ISO would not boot into ...

2026-07-24T15:05:01Z

For the past few releases our TROMjaro ISO would not boot into the live environment on real hardware. It was a Manjaro ISO that they finally fixed. So we just released a working ISO. Grab it from here forum.tromjaro.com/t/tromjaro-…

TROMjaro is already 6-7 years old. Stable, fast, based on #xfce and #manjarostable. With unique features - see the website www.tromjaro.com/

#linux #foss #opensource #trade-free #manjaro #arch

@nprofile…2e93 I dont measure these behaviors in this ...

2026-07-24T14:30:56Z

In reply to nevent1q…e6k4
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Chaotic Good-ish Barbarian (nprofile…2e93) I dont measure these behaviors in this simplistic way. You need to see where anger comes from and then deal with that. We talk about it here tromsite.com/2026/07/culture-c… if you care to read. We showcase how some are approaching this to prevent violence or terrorism and so forth.

@nprofile…2e93 You see I would consider banning you for ...

2026-07-24T11:45:29Z

In reply to nevent1q…wcg0
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Chaotic Good-ish Barbarian (nprofile…2e93) You see I would consider banning you for example, since you are clearly trolling. I never said I support pedophiles, of course, what kind of insane statement is that?! Continue to troll and I will block you instance wise.

Or stay decent and stop talking nonsense, and we are all good.

Snippet from Culture Cancer: I am quite happy that some of our ...

2026-07-24T11:18:25Z

Snippet from Culture Cancer:

I am quite happy that some of our roots in Europe, like those from the Ottoman empire, are long gone because I would not want to wear this fashionable-onion-hat.

And most likely very few in Europe would probably listen to the Ottoman music today, or understand their contemporary poetry and art. Not to mention their buildings and many traditions that are not at all compatible with today’s standards, morally and structurally.

But these are our “roots”, right? Or if we go back our roots in Europe were the Roman empire. Should we go way back? Why do we regard “our culture” as the “happenings” that have happened only for the past hundreds of years? Isn’t that an arbitrary line to draw and call it “our culture”? Especially since we know we cannot freeze that culture in time and hope to take it with us intact into the distant future.

#culture #europe #empire #trom #tromsite

@nprofile…2e93 What makes someone rape a child or an old woman, ...

2026-07-24T11:08:25Z

In reply to nevent1q…k5fr
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Chaotic Good-ish Barbarian (nprofile…2e93) What makes someone rape a child or an old woman, or kill 1 baby or a million citizens, is something that needs to be understood. There is no predisposition to any behavior. I dare you do find that. It is the environment that makes people behave the way they do. So we need to look at that and change that.

If you execute these bad people, the same conditions will create more of them. It's like you try to prevent climate change by blowing up oil refineries to stop people from burning fossil fuel. But you don't understand that the Trade Society we live in, with its institutions and rich people who control our resources, will be incentivized to drill more for oil because it is profitable.

If you don't know what is the cause of a problem, you cannot find a solution for is.

@nprofile…nxac @nprofile…2e93 We need to understand why ...

2026-07-24T11:03:58Z

In reply to nevent1q…3rl4
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🐘🐘 Humpleupagus 🐘🐘 (nprofile…nxac) Chaotic Good-ish Barbarian (nprofile…2e93) We need to understand why people do bad things. Period. Else we cannot prevent the harm they do.

I will ban those people who troll/abuse/harass our users and instance.

Clear enough?

@nprofile…2e93 People who hurt other people are terrible ...

2026-07-24T09:35:58Z

In reply to nevent1q…s5as
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Chaotic Good-ish Barbarian (nprofile…2e93) People who hurt other people are terrible people, but also we must look at what makes them do that. In order to prevent. Like with pedophiles - instead of being tough with them, imprison them, kill them, etc., is better to understand why they feel the way they do and prevent harm. Of course those who offend need to be "put away" but in a rehabilitation institution. Same with criminals, killers, etc..

I fear even saying this would trigger many, but there is no better way. If you keep on killing the bad people, you have no clue what made them like that and so others will become the same.

This is a serious and deep discussion and I'd like to address it via our TROM project as we recently did with the Culture Cancer.

@nprofile…2e93 Why would you even assume I think one is worse ...

2026-07-24T07:51:33Z

In reply to nevent1q…xxsa
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Chaotic Good-ish Barbarian (nprofile…2e93) Why would you even assume I think one is worse than another? I think both are awful. Do you imply we do not block pedophiles?

@nprofile…2e93 What are you even trying to imply?

2026-07-23T15:36:06Z

In reply to nevent1q…gyjg
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Chaotic Good-ish Barbarian (nprofile…2e93) What are you even trying to imply?

Catalonia and the people speaking the catalan language reside ...

2026-07-22T10:40:11Z

Catalonia and the people speaking the catalan language reside mostly here:

And this is how they ended up here:

What was there before?

Some Muslims it seems with their own language and culture.

To quote Wikipedia: “From the 8th century onwards the Catalan counts extended their territory southwards and westwards at the expense of the Muslims, bringing their language with them.”

The classic way of grabbing land, kicking off the “native” people (who very likely did the same thing to others who where there before them), put fences and borders and called it their land with their own language. The story of every tribe. Spain, France, USA … Every single one.

Snippet from Culture Cancer - tromsite.com/2026/07/culture-c…

#catalonia #catala #catalan #culture #trom #tromsite

Have you heard of the vulgar-latin? That’s Catalan. In other ...

2026-07-21T10:32:01Z

Have you heard of the vulgar-latin? That’s Catalan.

In other words a “vulgar”, non Latin, or “bad” Latin language. Because, of course, all languages are mixes of previous languages. We wrote a 600 pages book about the evolution of languages where we explain in detail how there is no such thing as Spanish, Catalan, English and so forth. Languages are in a constant movement and are comprised, just like those “sarmale” food, of many kinds of flavors. Catalan, French, Romanian, Italian and so forth, are languages that have evolved from Latin. And Latin evolved from other language(s).

To my Catalans readers, to put it simply, the Catalan language (and this applies for every single language) is this:

ONE:

A “bad” version of another language that over time mutated into its own language.

By “bad” I mean people will start to speak an official language (like Latin) in different ways (accents, new words, new ways to write it, etc.) and in the beginning this is considered as “bad” since it deviates from the “rules of the current language”.

But this “bad” will become the “rule”, just as the “rule” was also “bad” at some point. That’s how languages evolve.

TWO

A language that stole words from other languages. Directly, shamelessly, and constantly.

Do you know how Catalans call the “Internet”? Well, “internet”. Inter-Net. Borrowed from the Americans.

Catalan, like all languages, is full of these stolen words, expressions, and meanings.

THREE

A language that is vastly different from its own origins.

The Catalan that was spoken hundreds of years ago is vastly different from the one spoken today.

That’s the case with every single language.

#catalan #catala #language #trom #tromsite #catalonia

Not long ago Spain also won the Euro Cup – the biggest sport ...

2026-07-20T11:10:07Z

Not long ago Spain also won the Euro Cup – the biggest sport competition in Europe. Football that is. After the game people went into the streets to celebrate. The Spanish flags on display, honks, partying, “We won!” people were screaming!

What is interesting is that these are two of their best players of the tournament:

Yamal and Nico. Yamal’s father is a Spanish immigrant from Equatorial Guinea, and his mother is Moroccan. And Nico’s parents had to cross the Sahara’s desert to immigrate to Spain “illegally”.

Also two of Spain’s best defenders are called Robin Le Normand and Aymeric Laporte – not a fucking chance these are Spanish names! These guys are born in France.

Speaking of France, this is their football team:

No, this is not an African team, it is the “french” team. Most of their players have African roots. In fact when they won the World Cup in 2018, 87% of their team was made up of immigrants (them, their parents, or grandparents). And historically this has always been true for France.

Even their most iconic player Zinedine Zidane is of Algerian descent. His parents immigrated to Paris and he has described himself as a “non-practising Muslim”.

Lastly this is how the other finalists of Euro 2024, England, would look without immigrants:

Overall the African immigrants were some of the best players of this Europe football competition.

Keep that in mind!

So when their supporters shout “We won!” waving their nation’s flag, who is “we”? Who is Spain, France, England?

Food and Football, two very culturally grounded things in Europe, are all made up of bits from other parts of the world. And so is the case with every sport and dish from anywhere on this globe.

Snippet from Culture Cancer - tromsite.com/2026/07/culture-c…

#football #spain #worldcup #culture #catalonia #soccer #europe #england

The french fries probably originated from Spain some 400 years ...

2026-07-19T10:28:06Z

The french fries probably originated from Spain some 400 years ago.
Fish and chips are a kind of food that was introduced in England by immigrants.
And the Spanish paella emerged from the Muslims who began rice cultivation in what is today called as “Spain”.

Look at the evolution of the popular Chicken Tikka Masala (Wikipedia):Evolution of chicken tikka masala as a multicultural British dish.[41][4] Chicken tikka was created in Mughal India using Persian marinading of meat in yoghurt and Central Asian tandoor roasting with Indian spices.[42] In 20th century Britain, a sauce was added to meet the British liking for gravy with meat.[12] The dish has evolved further to a taco filling in the US,[36] and to a pizza topping in India.[39] Tacos originated from Mexico.[43] Pizzas originated from Italy.[44]

Snippet from Culture Cancer - tromsite.com/2026/07/culture-c…

#culture #society #food #spain #india

We are being attacked by the trolls on the fediverse. Is ok, we ...

2026-07-18T18:54:53Z

We are being attacked by the trolls on the fediverse. Is ok, we will block a lot of these black hole instances. It is truly sad to see this astonishing degradation of humanity. Tagged in posts that show people killing other people, or pornography, or insulting us.

Interesting how some people can lower themselves so much is nothing humane in them.

We at TROM provide trade-free services and materials for anyone. Hosting instances, file hosting, and so much more. As a service for other humans. And now this...

Quite disgusting...

For sure more will leave insane comments to this post too. And we will keep on blocking them and their instances.

#fediblock #fediverse

Another instance that we blocked globally: parcero.casa Hard do ...

2026-07-18T14:31:08Z

Another instance that we blocked globally: parcero.casa

Hard do believe some people are such absolute garbage. Likely lonely people who are hurt. They too are victims. But we cannot accept such troll and garbage instances that harass people to federate with us. I recommend others block it too and if you know more such instances please let us know so we block them.

#fediblock

In the same sense that there are many tribes who speak the same ...

2026-07-18T10:25:07Z

In the same sense that there are many tribes who speak the same language but have vastly different cultures, there are tribes with totally different languages, but their cultures are very similar. I was born in Romania and my friend Roma was born in Russia. Romania and Russia look so alike culturally that it is quite eerie. The buildings, food, attitudes, even the babushkas. But the languages are vastly different.

For example we call this “traditional Romanian food” as “sarmale”:

My mother always makes it for all of the important Romanian holidays. If you search online for “Romanian national holiday” plus the word “food”, you’ll see this dish as the main one. So this is a Romanian dish!

Well that’s what I thought. Turns out that Roma knows this food very well and he calls it “Голубцы”. He says it might be Russian. But Wikipedia tells me that is a traditional food from the “Ottoman cuisine”.

But the fact is that this “sarmale” food is not a “thing”, but a “flavor of things”. Some “sarmale” are made with meat and rice, some just rice, some with cabbage leafs and some with grape leafs. Different condiments. Cooked differently. They differ today from tribe to tribe, and even within the same tribe.

So is this “sarmale” food Romanian? Russian? No. Nothing is.

Snippet from Culture Cancer - tromsite.com/2026/07/culture-c…

#food #culture #romania #russia #trom #tromsite #traditions

Two more accounts blocked server wide: ...

2026-07-18T07:53:02Z

Two more accounts blocked server wide:
ChristiJunior@fsebugoutzone.org
The_Vampire_Brigade@detroitriotcity.com

For this:

I recommend for other instances to block them too.

#fediblock #fediverse

First of all what is “culture”? We humans have borders that ...

2026-07-17T17:39:21Z

First of all what is “culture”?

We humans have borders that divide us into tribes. The rules of the division are not always clear. Language? But USA and Australia speak the same language…
Same is the case for South Africa, England, Sudan, Botswana, Nigeria, Singapore, Namibia or Ghana. And some 100 more tribes:

French? Some 50 tribes speak French!

The fact is that there are many tribes that speak the same language yet their cultures can be totally different.

So what makes a “culture” is a soup of traditions, beliefs, religion, food, knowledge, art, clothing style, humor, sport, and so on.

A cluster of values that makes a group of people a bit different from another.

In that sense cultures are not only limited by borders and tribes, but they can form around a topic of interest such as gaming, movies, even celebrities.

Snippet from Culture Cancer - tromsite.com/2026/07/culture-c…

#culture #language #games #movies #english #french

First of all what is “culture”? We humans have borders that ...

2026-07-17T09:57:38Z

Hello distant people from who knows what corners on this round ...

2026-07-13T11:18:37Z

Hello distant people from who knows what corners on this round giant rock!

Today, after years of not being able to create anything new for TROM, I am releasing a new project: TROM Articles. See tromsite.com/articles/

Same as TROM Books, but in a different format. Makes more sense to have these pieces of content in this web-format rather than a PDF like the books were.

I am starting with an article about this project: TROM Articles.

But the main release is a massive article called Culture Cancer that I've been working on for the past year. This is an in-depth article about why groups of people hate other groups of people, and why culture can become cancerous. From Israel and Gaza, to Nazis and racism, I dissect this complex topic in a very simple to understand way.

I learned so much while doing this article. I learned to not hate even on those that are absolute monsters, because you get to learn where their hatred comes from. I learned how to communicate better with others and try to solve conflicts, even between friends, partners, family. I learned about the complex situation in Gaza or why the Nazis were such monsters. I learned about what cultures are and why variety is something to celebrate not differentiate. Learned about immigration or where racism comes from. What makes someone a terrorist? Or a white nationalist? Why are people putting themselves into groups and they hate on other groups of people?

A lot to unpack for such a complex topic, so I hope you get to learn a lot too. The article is full of links/sources, videos, documentaries, a course about culture, and even a quiz.

It makes us saner, smarter and more relaxed if we are educated. This is why I want TROM Articles to be a valuable place for that.

At times we may write smaller articles, but from time to time I want us to dissect important topics like the one above, or AI, or how we see the world, science, so much to learn about!

I am going through a lot recently, so I need a bit of time to be able to create new content. But I love doing this. Actually without it, I feel like I will collapse into a black hole. We may reboot TROMcast too, to discuss this topic. I may create videos as well. Let's see. I will let you know if/when these will happen.

I also feel forced to mention that it would help me so much if there would be more people supporting TROM financially. We ask for 5€ donations a month if possible. I feel sick even mentioning this, but since recently I was abandoned by my best friend, my partner with whom I was a team with and helped each other in all ways, then facing the world alone, physically, mentally and financially, has become a big fight for me now. I am asking for real donations not like "if you donate you get this". Everyone is treated equally and asked for a small and equal amount of money.

I hope I can make it, in all ways. Or at least in some ways. I have a lot to say and do. I want to create a Trade-Free Event and open the doors for more collaboration with TROM. Let's see where this goes.

Thank you for still being interested in this project that I hope will become a lot more relevant now with the new TROM Articles release!

PS: I know many people use mobile phones to "eat content". But I cannot guarantee these big articles are properly formatted for such tiny screens. Quite impossible the way I design them. So please, if you can, use a bigger device.

Many AUR packages have been compromised - ...

2026-06-12T22:23:31Z

Many AUR packages have been compromised - forum.tromjaro.com/t/many-aur-…

We explain how to check if you were infected.

#aur #aurexploit #linux #xfce #tromjaro #manjaro #foss #opensource #atomicarch

Thank you Raza for becoming our new TROM supporter - ...

2026-06-12T12:10:32Z

Thank you Raza for becoming our new TROM supporter - tromsite.com/donate/

We should release new content for TROM very soon!

#trom #tromsite

Our TROM Social (Friendica) finally got updated to the latest ...

2026-05-28T11:09:10Z

Our TROM Social (Friendica) finally got updated to the latest stable.

Thank you to the people behind #yunohost and #friendica. You are awesome humans.

#fedi #fediverse

Our Peertube is updated now. Security issue fixed! ...

2026-05-23T23:56:13Z

Our Peertube is updated now. Security issue fixed! videos.trom.tf/home

Thank you PeerTube (nprofile…2gwk) for fixing it so fast and #yunohost for implementing the change.

If anyone wants to post their videos on our instance, we invite you! Unlimited storage basically, but 5GB a day max upload. If you need more tell us.

Let's add more original and good content on #peertube!

We already have a few original creators, so check them out!

Our #peertube instance - videos.trom.tf - is not currently ...

2026-05-23T10:08:43Z

Our #peertube instance - videos.trom.tf - is not currently working. A failed upgrade and failed restore from backup. We need to figure what is the issue...stay tuned.

EDIT: We are affected by this github.com/Chocobozzz/PeerTube… . Currently trying to fix it. See github.com/YunoHost-Apps/peert…

UPDATE: We fixed the issue. The bloody infection...manually. As recommended by Peertube in the link above. I urge people to do it.

TROMjaro 2026.05.20 (security patches) - ...

2026-05-19T21:29:34Z

TROMjaro 2026.05.20 (security patches) - forum.tromjaro.com/t/tromjaro-…

#tromjaro #arch #linux #trade-free #manjaro

You should follow Big World small Sasha on Peertube - ...

2026-05-12T10:06:01Z

You should follow Big World small Sasha on Peertube - videos.trom.tf/c/big_world_sma…

She is making very interesting hiking videos. And she posts on Peertube! :)

We need more people who create original content to use Peertube. Without the content the platform cannot evolve.

#peertube #fedi #fediverse #videos #hiking #nature

Thank you Ognjen for becoming our new TROM Supporter - ...

2026-05-11T20:18:33Z

Thank you Ognjen for becoming our new TROM Supporter - tromsite.com/donate/

We create a lot of trade-free stuff, and hopefully this month we will release something new. Let's see.

We need 200 people to donate €5 a month in order to support our projects long term. We only accept equal donations of €5 to spread the load and make everyone equal within this campaign.

See the donation page for a detail look at what TROM does ;)

#fediverse #fedi #trom #tromsite #trade-free

We have received a Copyright claim from Amazon for our ...

2026-05-11T14:46:41Z

We have received a Copyright claim from Amazon for our PeerTube (nprofile…2gwk) instance videos.trom.tf/ . Hetzner, the hosting company where we have the dedicated server at, gave us 24h to resolve it.

The problem?

The video in question, a documentary about "aliens", a garbage piece of content, was NOT hosted on our instance, of course. But since Peertube is federated the idiots sent the claim to our hosting company. Even if UNDER the video you can see that video is "Posted By:" and the instance and username. It takes a few seconds to see where the video is hosted.

But who cares...maybe Amazon has "AI Agents" employed and they simply find a video of theirs on a URL and see the IP of that URL and submit a Copyright claim to the hosting where that domain is registered?!

Bunch of idiots.

But it is very concerning the fact that they can do these and we, the ones who hosts (and for free for that matter), need to quickly "fix" these things even if the claim has nothing to do with our server.

We eventually had to block that URL, thanks Peertube for allowing that, else these idiots cannot understand that it was not us who were hosting that video.

#peertube #fedi #fediverse

Louis Theroux: Inside The Manosphere - ...

2026-04-20T19:05:03Z

Louis Theroux: Inside The Manosphere - videoneat.com/documentaries/26…

Awful world out there full of idiots. But if you pay close attention to this documentary even these absurdities like the "manosphere" and "how to be a man" are under the direct influence of trade. Trade your bullshit online for views, likes, reactions, to in return get money, stuff, influence. It is so clear.

Trade really ruins everything.

#videoneat #documentary #manosphere #looksmaxxing #tromsite #TradeRuinsEverything

Thank you Uwe for becoming our new 5€ TROM supporter! ...

2026-04-15T23:19:15Z

Thank you Uwe for becoming our new 5€ TROM supporter! tromsite.com/donate/

It is uplifting to see people supporting TROM and all of our projects!

#trom #tromsite

We have a new TROM supporter! Thank you Olivier! ...

2026-04-11T21:54:06Z

We have a new TROM supporter! Thank you Olivier! tromsite.com/donate/

#trom #tromsite

Thank you Gabriel for becoming our new TROM supporter ...

2026-04-08T00:33:54Z

Thank you Gabriel for becoming our new TROM supporter tromsite.com/donate/

And thank you for your wonderful comment here - tiotrom.com/2026/03/just-some-…

It is so important to read such messages and know that there are people out there who find a lot of value in what I (we) do!

#trom #tromsite

Many thanks to everyone to is still supporting TROM financially - ...

2026-04-06T10:42:53Z

Many thanks to everyone to is still supporting TROM financially - tromsite.com/donate/

We ask for 5€ donations if anyone can help, to distribute the financial burden and not rely on a few individuals. There are 83 people supporting us monthly. If anyone thinks this project is worth supporting please see the donation page and help. There we explain all what we do.

Thank you very much!

#trom #tromsite #fedi #fediverse

Thank you Nerijus for becoming our new 5€ a month supporter! ...

2026-04-04T22:54:00Z

Thank you Nerijus for becoming our new 5€ a month supporter! tromsite.com/donate/

#trom #tromsite

Thank you Ondine for becoming our new TROM supporter ...

2026-03-30T20:29:13Z

Thank you Ondine for becoming our new TROM supporter tromsite.com/donate/ - it is so motivating to see new people supporting TROM. Makes you want to put more effort into it, create new things, etc.!

If we get 12 more people to donate 5€ a month we can do these:

We will start a video series for TROM, similar to the books' content.
We will bring back TROMnews because the world needs a good news website.
We will increase the TROM Files storage space to 20GB for all.

That would be fantastic!

#tromsite #trom #tromjaro #foss #fedi #fediverse

That's it we did it! Thank you all so much! ...

2026-03-15T11:08:42Z

That's it we did it! Thank you all so much! gofundme.com/f/yearly-fundrais…

We have to increase a bit the fundraiser due to some "sales ...

2026-03-15T02:24:54Z

We have to increase a bit the fundraiser due to some "sales taxes"... gofundme.com/f/yearly-fundrais…

Apparently we had to pay that too...

Thank you so much everyone! We are 83% there!

#fediverse #fedi #donation #volunteer #tromsite #trom

The Librarians - videoneat.com/documentaries/26… The Librarians ...

2026-03-07T09:47:37Z

The Librarians - videoneat.com/documentaries/26…

The Librarians is a 2025 American documentary film, directed and produced by Kim A. Snyder. It follows librarians in Texas, Florida, and other states, as they unite to combat book banning in the United States. Sarah Jessica Parker serves as an executive producer under her Pretty Matches Productions banner.

The film had its world premiere at the Sundance Film Festival on January 24, 2025, and was released on October 3, 2025, by 8 Above.

#libraries #documentary #bbc #videoneat

Thank you Jean for becomin our new 5€ a month supporter ...

2026-03-01T22:31:13Z

Thank you Jean for becomin our new 5€ a month supporter tromsite.com/donate/ !!

And thank you to everyone who supports TROM financially. We do a lot of projects. We provide a Friendica instance and have over a thousand users, a Peertube instance with unlimited uploads, a Nextcloud instance providing 10GB of space for everyone and a full Office Suite...a custom Linux distribution, a documentaries-based website...

See our donation page how many things we do. And we will do more!

#nextcloud #friendica #fediverse #peertube #fedi #selfhosting #foss #opensource

TROMjaro 2026.02.27 - forum.tromjaro.com/t/tromjaro-… #foss ...

2026-02-27T21:51:45Z

TROMjaro 2026.02.27 - forum.tromjaro.com/t/tromjaro-…

#foss #linux #tromjaro #opensource

Fossils reveal how birds survived the killer asteroid and became ...

2026-02-22T13:51:09Z

Fossils reveal how birds survived the killer asteroid and became today’s only living dinosaurs.
Dino Birds

Our Friendica has been more stable for the past days. This is ...

2026-02-21T10:40:53Z

Our Friendica has been more stable for the past days. This is good. Maybe leftover database tasks from the recent update made our CPU work so hard. So far all is looking good.

#friendica #fedi #fediverse

We have 3 more supporters who donate 5€ a month. Thank you so ...

2026-02-05T23:52:05Z

We have 3 more supporters who donate 5€ a month. Thank you so much to Colin, John, and Kershaw! tromsite.com/donate/

We need 12 more people to start a new video series, bring back TROMnews, and increase the storage for our TROM Files (nextcloud) to 20GB for everyone.

Maybe we can make it happen. Would be fantastic!

#tromsite #nextcloud #fedi #fediverse #volunteer #campaign #trom #tromtf #foss #opensource

We will update our TROM Social tomorrow! Be aware that some ...

2026-02-05T17:48:17Z

We will update our TROM Social tomorrow!

Be aware that some things may not work well for hours. And in case of failure it will take us some time to restore from a backup. Let's hope all will go well. And if you'd like to support what we do and pay for our servers, you can consider a donation here tromsite.com/donate/ . Is up to you, our services will always be trade-free regardless. Cheers! Tio (nprofile…npfh)

#fedi #fediverse #friendica #yunohost #selfhosting

Our Last Chance to Find Risso Dolphins - ...

2026-01-31T16:02:26Z

Our Last Chance to Find Risso Dolphins - videos.trom.tf/w/fnv1fsx2PmdKu…

#volunteer #nature #dolphins #bbta

From crunchy crickets to nutty fly grubs, NOVA takes a tasty look ...

2026-01-26T19:23:02Z

From crunchy crickets to nutty fly grubs, NOVA takes a tasty look at insect foods and how they could benefit our health and our warming planet.
Edible Insects

Since the last release we got a bit of traction. We ended up on ...

2026-01-25T13:27:13Z

Since the last release we got a bit of traction. We ended up on the front page of DistroWatch and we got a nice article on ZDnet. Plus a bunch of reviews on Youtube. Nice! What is important for us is when people talk about the idea behind TROMjaro.
TROMjaro 2026.01.25 (some fixes)

Bats have been implicated in deadly epidemics such as COVID-19 ...

2026-01-24T13:58:38Z

Bats have been implicated in deadly epidemics such as COVID-19 and Ebola, yet scientists are discovering evidence that they may hold a key to a longer and healthier life.
Bat Superpowers

A Russian teacher secretly documents his small town school's ...

2026-01-20T17:39:06Z

A Russian teacher secretly documents his small town school's transformation into a war recruitment center during the Ukraine invasion, revealing the ethical dilemmas educators face amid propaganda and militarization.
Mr. Nobody Against Putin